Living the Groove Life

One of my biggest irritations right now is how some guys think of this “dating thing” as a game.  These people go around and approach and approach.  They try new tips and tricks and may wear funny hats and furry boas.  They do things they would never want to do and i’m sure most of them cringe at looking themselves at the mirror.  They practice things on people with an outcome that usually labels them as weird and flat out ridiculous.  These people destroy relationships before it is even built.  

Gentleman, this isn’t a game.  It’s your life.  That brunette that you think is cute around the corner could be a new potential lover or the best friend you ever had.  These women are people just like us who have real emotions.  A lot of these women want to find the man of their dreams just like at the end of the day all we really want is to find the women of ours.  

I’m not saying to take things so serious.  Have fun, go out and enjoy the night away!  Meet new people, make new friends and flirt when the cutie that passes you by.  Do it the right way, not the creepy way.  Be sincere in your endevours.  Sometimes honesty with a romantic twist is all you need.  Use that charming smile, introduce her to your friends and bust your groove on the dance floor with her.  

Women want this kind of man, not the one who is on the prowl looking for that easy lay.  

On second thought, if this is you, keep doing what you are doing.  Keep doing your a thousand approaches and your routine canned openers.  Keep being that weird guy who everyone is talking about.  You guys make me look ten times better out of sheer comparison and provide a good laugh as I bring her home!  ;-)

Keeping it real!  

~Shane Groove

Hey everyone!  Groove here!  Today I wanted to talk to you all about how to get your interactions with women solid!   I’ve been getting a lot of messages of how to create TRUE ATTRACTION when it comes with women.  I mean, how many of you out there have had a seemingly great receptive conversation with a girl, get her number and never hear from her again?  I’m sure that happens to many of you out there.  To be honest, it used to happen to me before I learned the truth of what I was doing wrong.  

No matter how great your openers are or how witty your approach may be, you probably created no compelling reason for her to further the interaction with you.  Many times when talking to my female friends (I have a lot of them and you should too for their valuable insight!) they tell me that they give out numbers, whether it be fake or not, just so the guy who came over to talk to them can leave them alone.  Many women give you their number so that you can GO AWAY!  

What is disheartening about this is that I strongly believe that the majority of guys reading this right now are great guys who deserve great quality women.  But armed with the wrong knowledge and the wrong system, you may dilute your ability to connect with great women and decrease your chances with having a great relationship.  

There are two parts in having a solid interaction with a women:  1) Connection 2) Foreshadow

Connection

In my experience, ensuring that a women and I connect makes it so much easier to further the interaction with her.  The way connection works is that you and her relate to your core values.  Core values are your base beliefs, mantras, or rules simplified so she can easily connect with it.  Core values are the key to agreement, instant connection, and long term bonding.  

An example of one of my core values is that I ensure that I take care of my body.  That is the reason why I eat right, drink little, and exercise appropriately.  To me, my health is my wealth and I take that very seriously and I ensure that my lifestyle supports healthy living.  

When I say this to a quality woman, more often than not she would agree with this statement and can relate to me and who I am.  At the end of the day, TRUE ATTRACTION is nothing more than a race to hers and your core values.

Foreshadow

After you have made a connection with a woman the most important next step is to ensure you foreshadow. Foreshadowing is a hallmark technique of the 24/7 Attractive Man System.  We use it to embed the future into a woman’s imagination as a possibility of a future date through words.  It is an art form on its own and requires good word play, critical thinking of future time lines, and a REAL personality to draw her into.   

An example of foreshadowing could be something like this: “Sarah, well I’m glad you and I could relate to the fitness scene!  Hey, wouldn’t it be awesome if one of these days you and I could do a run along the beach and hit up some jamba juice to rehydrate!”  Obviously if you guys connected she would absolutely love this idea.  

This past weekend I did exactly these two things.  I was at Café Cocomo for salsa dancing and met a very cute girl who I danced with a couple of times.  After we danced, I pulled her aside to get water and I shared my core value of dancing. 

“The great thing I love about the dance floor is that if you really want to enjoy it you have to fully immerse yourself in that moment.  You can’t be thinking of your problems of the past or the future, you just have to live in it now!”

I wholeheartedly believe this when I said this.  I mean, this isn’t just a line, this is something that defines what I do.  Because she was a dancer she related to this and we had a true authentic connection by talking about this.  Afterwards, I told her how cool it would be if we could meet up again soon to practice our dancing steps and how we can figure out a way to tackle the complicated pattern we learned in today’s class.  She completely agreed and excitedly she gave me her number.  We have been texting ever since and have planned to go on an outing very soon!

Anyways, I hope this helps your cause gentleman.  Good luck making those interactions more relatable and solid.  As always if you need anything don’t hesitate to let me know!

I know things like approaching may be problems for some of you.  Though repetition is the mother of skill, I think there are better and more effective ways to getting over approaching women.  For me, I don’t have a lot of time going out 5 days a week.  I have a career that I find very rewarding and a lifestyle that allows me to pursue the endeavors that I’m passionate about.  Because of this, I don’t have time to invest myself in approaching women all day and go out as much as possible.  It just isn’t a balanced life and a lifestyle that I want to have.  

Since the dawn of time, there have been men who have been great with women.  They didn’t use the techniques prescribed by PUA artists.  They simply were men worth pursuing.  

Things like approach anxiety are there for a reason.  Sometimes you got to listen to you gut and hear out what it has to say.  If you feel anxious about approaching a girl it’s probably for obvious reasons.  For instance, if you see a hot girl and you want to talk to her, do you have any real reason to talk to her in the first place?  Also, what is our real purpose of talking to these women anyways in a Macro sense?  

So here’s a quick way to get over approach anxiety:

1)  Pre-game
Before you go out you should do a pre-game.  Doesn’t mean that you have to drink, but it does mean that you need to get in a good emotional state.  There are two people in this world:  1) People who go to the party for the venue 2) People who bring the party to the venue.  I’d recommend you do the later.  So go call friends or talk to love ones.  Hype yourself up with music or general incantations “today i’m going to bring it!  Today i’m going to have an amazing time with my friends and we are just going to rock the night away!”  This should be your mindset.

2)  Bring high energy and your friends
When you go to the venue, bring that high energy you created.  I don’t like going alone, because it is just more fun hanging out with a cool crew.  Plus, inevitably women will ask you where your friends are. There are ways to go out by yourself and still be cool.  We can go over that another time, but to be honest it’s just must more fun if you hang out with quality people.  

3)  Enjoy the moment
Simmer down and enjoy what’s going on.  Take notice of things that are going on, enjoy the music, have a drink, make jokes, laugh and enjoy the night for a while.  Jeez what’s the rush.  :-)  Also, remember that women are constantly looking around to see who the “in crowd” is.  You show yourself as credible if you are having a good time because it demonstrates you are a part of a group who is there to party and not just pick up women.  

4)  Select high energy groups
While your chilling and having fun keep your eye out for groups of people with high energy.  The people who are having fun and want to party are the people who would want to talk to you in the first place.  Keep this in mind too, if you see a hot chick but seems lame, she probably is either a) doesn’t want to talk to anyone cuz she’s tired b) just doesn’t want to talk to randoms 3) is probably lame herself!  At the end of the day, we all know that quality women can offer more than just pussy.  

5)  State the obvious
After you acquire your “target” pass by them and just state the obvious.  Lets say for instance a favorite song comes up that everyone knows and love. Say, “man this is such a great song!  Just perfect for this night!” and clink glasses with whoever your talking with.  Or, if you see some  dude creeping and approaching every women in the bar, tell a girl who is right beside you….”wow…watch out he looks like he’s hunting over there talking to every single girl in the room!” and have a good laugh.  You see, it’s simple to strike up conversation.  Also, note that while you were doing step 4) every girl in that bar/club/lounge noticed you were having fun and not just there to hunt for some pussy.  They notice these things.  We call this “line of sight”!

6) Leave on a high point!
After you start up chatting with her a bit and she is having fun talking to you stop the conversation.  Say “hey you’re really cool Sally!  Let me catch back with my friends!  I’m sure I’ll see you later on so you better save me a dance!!!  DONT’ DILUTE YOUR CONVERSATIONS WITH WOMEN.  Leave when everything is cool because when you come back it will be just like your old friends.  Also, more than likely lame guys will approach her or try to hit on her awkwardly.  She’ll remember you being cool and she will be so happy when you come back to her.  This happens ALL the time!  


This is how I do things and get great results. It’s easy, it’s perfectly normal and you don’t have to worry about approach anxiety.  Also, when you’re doing this a powerful mindset to have is that “tonight everyone is my friend….tonight there are no strangers”

This mindset is cool and makes you be that friendly guy who everyone will love.  

Anyways, i hope this helps.  Later we can go over sexual escalation, because the common denominator with a guy who is good with women is that he can pull that trigger and sexualize the interaction.  But another time…..

Let me know what you think of this fellas!  And if you have any other questions don’t hesitate to ask! I’m here for you!